Are your compliments selfishly offered?

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”  1 Peter 3:1-2

I am latching onto the middle part of this verse: “they may be won over without words.”

If I couldn’t speak, could I influence someone?

I am keen on getting affirmation.  I feel better about something if someone notices.  That’s me.  Not everyone is like that.

My wife, in following the patterns of Gary Chapman’s “Love Languages,” is keen on acts of service.  Opposites attract?

My relationship in my home sinks quickly when things don’t go the way I want them to go.  Much of it has to do with getting called out for something not done and responding regarding things that have gone underappreciated.

Today’s verses offer me correction.  I am to cast off my need for affirmation.  Why? It is selfish and it indicates that I have forgotten that God is the ultimate rewarder of what I do.

Affirmations from humans will never match what I have from God.  Things get missed.  God doesn’t miss.  He’s in my midst noticing.

I need to love my wife with deeds, not relying only on words.  Not that words can’t be in play.

My former mentality concerning affirmation needed a major correction.  Thanks to 1 Peter 3:1-2 I have been alerted to where I need to correct a former behavior.

My words must not be spoken in the hope that they will lead to an affirmation.  That thinking leaves out God and forgets that people respond differently to things.

Conclusion: I am a child of God.  All the affirming I need comes from knowing that and acting accordingly. My wife is not required to affirm me.

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